One of the biggest struggles women face is the ability to be truly confident in their work. Sadly, society screams focuses on how a woman should act and what they should be. I meet with so many female youth and the lack of self-confidence scares me. What I want to focus on with this blog post is easy ways to exude self confidence without trying to be someone you were never meant t be in the first place.
Smile Babygirl! (naturally and as often as you can!) - So…. Smiling is easy, right? But the important part is to smile naturally. Forget about that fake smile we’ve all used when nervous or in uncomfortable situations. That doesn’t work and takes away from your confidence. Being happy in general gives off good vibrations, so obviously if you’re not truly happy, it is hard to genuinely smile. If you’re having a good day – smile. Smiling feels good and automatically makes the worst day seem better. It is actually also very healthy. We all have things that are not always perfect in our lives, but It is welcoming and allowing people to see you as the confident, approachable, attractive person that you are.
Support your sisters - Confidence isn’t afraid to congratulate another female on a job well done. It doesn’t look for ways to take away from another woman’s success. Confidence isn’t afraid to support. It accepts the invitation, attends the event, purchases the book and cheers the other person on. Trying to cut someone down out of jealousy is something that insecurity does. Be effortlessly confident by simply showing love to those who are doing well.
Stand up for yourself - Confidence cares about itself and demands the respect it knows it deserves. Do the same for yourself. Don’t let someone tell you to “calm down” or “relax” when you know you’re being mistreated. Remember that you teach people how to treat you. If there is something going on that you don’t like – say so. People aren’t mind readers. Practice speaking up!
Forget the past - The past can be one of the things that can prevent you from being your effortlessly confident self – if you let it. Doing that is a huge waste of time and lowers your confidence more and more. Forget the past! You can’t change it and your life isn’t going in that direction. Instead of trying to erase the past, put so much energy into moving on and doing better in your present and future that you forget all about it. Chances are everybody else already has.
Don’t hide from the spotlight - Instead of hiding, learn to handle it with poise. Practice it like any other skill. When those nerves and feelings of intimidation and fear rear their ugly heads, put them back in their place! Say to yourself that this is ok; you can handle this and shift your focus to getting the job done – whatever it is you’re asked to do – do it to the best of your ability. Don’t hide from the spotlight, conquer it and you will automatically exude confidence.
In the end, being yourself will take you to more places than you thought possible. Forget about acting confident altogether and just BE confident.
With Love | Nikki xo